Issa Situationship ?

I've noticed in our generation of dating "Situationships" are happening way more often than we think. Now it makes you wonder am i in a situationship?, and is this something I want for my self?

Sometimes identifying some of the "signs" in your current talking phase can help alleviate the possibility of getting into one. As part of the dating world we all have unfortunately fallen into this trap and surly learned it wasn't worth it.

I mean what ever happened to real dating? Courting properly and taking it slow. Ya know, really getting to know a person. Now a days the pressure to "date around" until something flourishes but you know that dies out... There seems to be an expectation that no one wants anything "serious" and that is not fair to the hopeless romantics who just want the "real thing" whatever that is.

Ladies lets be real, does your "boo thing" do certain things that have you questioning "what are we" and is this going anywhere. Well lets fact check the first 3 things ...

1. DATING WITH NO TITLE.

When someone asks "are in a relationship?" you reply, “We’re just dating and having fun,” or that slightly awkward response, “We’re figuring things out.” Girl, figuring things out means one of you wants more and hasn’t quite figured out whether your partner is on the same page. A conversation about "us" should be happening SOON!

2. NO FUTURE TALK BUT YOU’VE BEEN A "THING" FOR THREE MONTHS OR MORE.

The hookups are frequent at this point and you see each other once or more a week, but there has not been a discussion of a future together. It usually starts as a getting to know you phase. You guys text everyday, may talk on the phone every other day, but he's never asked you out. Honestly ladies is that real "dating".....NO MA"AM! Now i'm not saying you have to be with your guy friend all day everyday but you should still see consistency in his actions to gain your love and affection. STOP catering to him in such an early phase to show your worth. Especially if he hasn't asked you on a date.We know we want our guy friends to understand "we are different" but trust me he knows. He wouldn't have approached you if he didn't feel that way. He's testing you to see what you'll allow. SET YOUR STANDARDS and stick to them!You’re basically toying with the idea of extending your time together, but there has not been an open dialogue of what the next 12 months will be. This a detrimental to love and is bound to end with you feeling hurl or less than.

3. HOOKUPS

The physical chemistry couldn’t be stronger or more intimate. However he can never spend the night or cuddle for to long. In fact, that's all he wants to do is have sex when you're around. Let us tell you now. ISAA SITUATIONSHIP! A real man who's interested in you doesn't feel the need to have sex all the time because he knows he's going to be around for a while.

Men usually choose based on a couple different factors. Can he manipulate you, can he gain from you? Or can he see a future with you, and possibly create a life with you! If its the first two understand that's why you may be in a situation-ship. Trust it has nothing to do with your worth as a woman but everything to do with what he wanted at that time when he met you. That's where intentions come in. Ladies, we strongly encourage you to fact check the guy your currently dating, because unfortunately "situation-ships" can last years with no real commitment or promise for the future you want. And that'll surely throw you off your square and take you out of your RED ZONE! Baby girl you deserve better! Stay Focused. Have that intention of dating with a purpose, not dating to pass time. One thing we often think is we have time, and life is short. So Queen know your value and always apply a purpose to everything around you!

Until next time, - Jay

XOXO Red Zone

Post by : Jamie M.